Working Toward Goals With Your Spouse
There’s an old saying that the family that prays together stays together.
I’m not going to argue with that. I believe prayer to be 100% necessary for a healthy marriage.
Another thing that is helpful for building strong marriages is working toward goals together.
Why struggle on your own when you and your spouse can support each other in living out your dreams?
Try these tips for couples who want to aim higher and work smarter.
Aim Higher Together
- Set joint goals. Your spouse probably knows more about you than anyone else in your life. Double your resources by pulling together to agree on your objectives and how to reach them. You’ll also be able to cover more ground by complementing each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
- Share encouragement. If a pep talk inside your own head can recharge your enthusiasm, imagine how much motivation you can gather from having your spouse on your side. Cheer each other on.
- Hang in there. There’s a good reason why fitness buffs sign up for cycling classes instead of riding a stationary bike alone. Just the presence of others can help you to persevere, and someone you’re close to is more influential than a gym member you just met. As you’re working with goals with your spouse, their presence alone can be enough to help you push past the hurdles you come across.
Work Smarter Together
- Be realistic. To really enjoy the rewards of your efforts, your goals need to be within your reach. Your spouse can help you be realistic if you’re taking on more than you can handle.
- Check-in with each other. It’s easy to lose track of your goals when you’re keeping up with daily responsibilities. Checking in with each other reminds you of where you’re trying to go and what you need to do to get there.
- Adapt & adjust. Life is unpredictable. Being flexible allows you to adapt to changing circumstances. As you evaluate your progress, you may need to modify your plan.
- Take turns. Working in pairs also gives you the advantage of rotating your roles. Being “one flesh” certainly has its advantages.
- Calm down. While it’s commendable to get excited about your goals, too much intensity might trigger unnecessary stress. When you sense that happening, suggest taking a step back and resting a bit.
- Weigh the risks. Sometimes you need to take chances to pursue your dreams, but you also want to protect your future. Provide a sounding board for each other if you’re trying to figure out whether a bold step is worth the risk.
- Bounce back from disappointment. Research suggests that unfulfilled goals tend to cause more discomfort than having no goals at all. A supportive spouse makes it easier to remain content and motivated. They can remind you of your blessings if you feel like you’re missing out.
- Enjoy the process. While having specific and measurable goals can help you to become more successful, your happiness depends on appreciating the journey as well as the destination. Traveling with someone you love makes any trip more entertaining.
Revitalize your relationship by moving ahead in the same direction. Team up with your partner to set goals and hold each other accountable. You’re likely to accomplish more and build a closer connection.