Life is hard. And sometimes, life is really hard. I get it. We all have problems. We all have areas in our lives that are such a mess that we’d rather shove them under a rug than to deal with them directly.
Yes. Each and every one of us have “junk” that we want to hide from the rest of the world. But where is that getting us? Where does all this denying of the existence of our problems get us?
Nowhere. Stuck right here where we’ve always been. Sometimes, denying the truth gets us deeper and deeper into the rut we’ve dug ourselves into. In short, sweeping all of our junk under the rug isn’t doing anything but making it all worse.
“Alright, Becki. So you claim that everyone has issues just like me… Why is it that there are so many people that are making it just fine?”
The difference between them and you is what they are doing about it. Are you sitting there with a poor-poor-pitiful-me attitude hoping someone will come and take care of your problems for you? Do you call up your girlfriends or your momma complaining, getting them to fuel the fire with “Aw, you poor thing!” and “Girl, you have got it so hard.” (I call these “poor babies.”)
Or are you doing something about it? I’m not talking about just anything, either. Are you making changes that are going to lead you to where you want to be? We can be doing something and still standing in the same spot. Or even worse – we could be moving backwards. That’s surely not going to get us where we want to go.
So what do you do? How do you know what is going to help you get to where you want to go? How do you know for sure that what you are about to do is actually going to help and not hurt?
Let’s make one thing clear. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Nothing. Well, besides taxes and death, but that’s a whole different topic. Even when you make the best decisions all the time, things are going to screw up. It happens. That’s what we call Life. But here are some pointers that can help you as you go.
Pray all the time. Trust that God hears your cries and knows your pain. Trust that He has a plan for you and will fulfill it
God gave us all the wisdom we need right there in that one book. (Ok… 66 books, but you know what I mean.)
Don’t speak in anger. And for goodness sake, don’t text/Facebook/email/tweet in anger! Communicating in anyway while you’re angry will only lead to more trouble. Promise.
Don’t sit around and make up stories in your head, filling in the blanks of life. Don’t assume that the whole world is out to get you. Don’t assume that everything somebody says is somehow a secret attack on you. (I admit, I could go on and on about this one… some other time.)
Where do you want to be in one week, one month, one year, 5 years? You can’t map out a road trip without knowing the destination – and you can’t chart out a path toward your goals without knowing specifically what those goals are.
People who lift you up. People who inspire you. Think of someone who whenever you are with them, you walk away feeling energized – ready to conquer the world. Those are the kinds of people you need to spend your time with.
Let the negative people fall off to themselves. When you learn to focus on positive change, those people who feed off of negativity will starve when they are around you. It won’t take long for these folks to figure out they can’t get any of the fun drama from you and will start to look for it elsewhere. Trust me, it’s a sacrifice worth making!
I can’t say this loud enough. Do not sit and wallow in your own self-pity – whether it is earned or not. It doesn’t matter how hard life gets, do whatever you can to get out, go for a walk, browse the mall with some friends, go see a movie, pop in a Jillian Michaels DVD, go dancing, do something! Do not just sit there. Move it!
Remember, no matter how many good choices you make, life is still going to be hard. It’s what you do when life gets hard that determines what your future is going to look like. Don’t get discouraged by the junk that pulls you down. When you stumble, get back up. Keep walking. You can do this, you just have to put some effort into it.
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